There’s a lot of quotes, songs, poems, books, etc., about change. Change brings a different feeling to everyone. Many people are afraid of change. Many don’t see the need for it. Some get excited about it; welcome it. No matter which category you fall in, none of us can avoid it.
Yes, even those who deliberately try to avoid it have to encounter change. It’s human nature. We all change. Like you, I am definitely not the same person I was when I was younger. I’m not nearly as angsty as I used to be. I’m a little less self-centered. A little. And I don’t wear Hot Wheel footie pajamas to bed anymore… that you are aware of.
I bring this up because my wife and I were talking about how much we have changed since we’ve been together. To think of the people we were before and who we are now kind of shocked me. It’s because we didn’t specifically set out to change ourselves, or each other, for that matter. It just happens. It’s up to us to figure out if that change will be for the better or worse.
For instance: I never liked kids. There, I said it. I usually get a bad reaction when I do: “How on earth can you say that when you have these threebeautiful children?” Uhhh, because they’re gross? Smell them! And have you seen the way a toddler eats? Disgusting. I honestly never wanted kids. There just wasn’t anything about being a father that appealed to me. But when the wifey came into my life, and she came with the addition of two kids. Then I fell in love. Not only with my wife, but with those kids too! They’re awesome kids! Heck, we liked ‘em so much we had a third!
Now, I can’t imagine my life without them. I am fully enveloped in this daddy thing and y’know… I really think I’m doing an okay job with it. I get them up for school every day, make lunches, drive to practices, visit them during lunch when I can, help at the schools occasionally, do laundry, the works! And I freaking love it! I could sit and watch them play for hours. What the hell has happened to me? I changed.
With that example comes a hundred more that could use to fill up this whole paper. People change for the good and the bad. There’s not much you can do about it other than make the most of it.
Some people change more than others. Those are probably the hardest changes to accept: Other people’s changes. You see, we can understand or at least figure out how and why we changed. It’s not quite so easy when it’s a loved one. Some of those changes can drive you mad if you let them. Everyone handles it differently.
One thing’s for sure: You can’t control it. When you try, it has a tendency to end badly. I just try to make the best of all these changes and learn from the bad. Because things will never be the same. That’s just the way it is.