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| | Issue #19.11 :: 10/09/2007 - 10/15/2007 | The trouble with sharing beds
| BY SUZANNE HOLLAND
| AUGUSTA, GA. - Recently a reader sent me an article by Linda Carroll from msnbc.com about sleeping situations for couples that share (or don’t share) beds. I was intrigued by the article and thought I’d share some of the information and my thoughts about it with you.
Carroll looked into how well men and women sleep when they share a bed. And she found that men sleep better than women next to their partner. I have to say, I’m not surprised.
The article sited snoring as a major issue — especially as men age (apparently, they begin to snore even more as those digits rise). Another problem is that, historically, women are the ones who wake to feed infants and check on children so they are lighter sleepers.
All of that makes sense. But something that made even more sense was that men show more dependence on close relationships than women, and therefore being near their partner at night benefits their sleep. Interesting.
Some of the couples interviewed in the article have opted to start sleeping in separate beds. Some just deal with it. As one of the researchers said, there is something very comforting about going to bed with the person that you love and knowing that they are there next to you all night. The researcher even suggested that the benefit you get from being next to that person is worth more than a little restless sleep.
I think I’d have to agree. I just can’t imagine being married and going to sleep in two different beds. That time alone in bed before you fall asleep that you share with the person you love can be the most special time of the day.
And I don’t mean because you might get physical together. I mean because you are in your own little world together where you can talk and share your intimate thoughts. You get to feel the presence of this person in your life and know that they are right there beside you.
To me, all that would be more important than perfect sleep — though I am a little frustrated that apparently these guys can sleep like rocks with no issues at all.
I’m just not a good sleeper, period, so I have moments of sheer jealousy when I learn of the ease with which others drift off into dreamland not to toss or turn or wake until morning.
The truth is that I don’t sleep so great alone or with someone else, so I guess I’m a totally different study. Maybe that’ll be the next article on msnbc.com.
Until then, I’ll keep on mulling over these ideas about men getting more benefits out of committed relationships than women. That way, I can point out how they are all just putting up fronts when they act like they want to be single forever… or again! | |
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